ivf.....everybody's doing it

I seldom talk about IVF on this blog anymore, even though it was one of the main inspirations for starting the blog in the first place.  I still read IVF forums, still cheer on fellow IVFer's and still drive by our IVF clinic at least once a week.  So much has changed since we started with the fertility clinic last summer.  When I think about IVF now, I am happy.  I am happy because it exists and I am happy that we were one of the lucky ones where it worked the first time.

One of the biggest things I found when we started out, was how taboo the whole subject was.  I mean I never knew of or heard of anyone remotely close to me who had gone through it.  To me, I pictured lab coats and science experiments which somehow resulted in babies.

The reality isn't too far off if you are lucky.

Now that I am coming up on 19 weeks of pregnancy I feel like a normal pregnant woman in some respects (not counting the fact that I am much larger then most at 20 weeks due to the fact that there are two babies in here) but I will always be thankful for the science experiment that resulted in this miracle. 

One thing that has changed since the start... I run into someone who has done IVF, is doing IVF or has a close friend that has done IVF almost daily.  Where were these people a year ago?  Do you have to be part of the club to be let in on the secret that a lot more people undergo IVF then you would think?  Maybe it is because I am so open and eager to share the fact that we did IVF that I am finding so many others from this club. 

My point... I really hope that people keep sharing and talking about IVF so it is no longer taboo.  I also hope that all of those going through IVF can someday share my feelings and think about how great a process it really is and how lucky we all are that it exists.

Oh and did I mention that there is one more day until the big reveal?  Get excited!

No this has nothing to do with my post... but it is just so pretty!  Breaking Through by slightclutter via etsy


  1. I agree with you. Its amazing how when we open up about our infertility struggles how suddenly so many people around us start sharing the difficulties they've had too. Its comforting to know we aren't alone, but I wish this open sharing would continue! We could have such a huge support group if more people were open! I'm excited for you finding out the sexes tomorrow! I can't wait for you to post what those precious babies are!!

  2. I haven't used IVF, but I'm already thankful it is an option out there. My husband and I have just started trying to have a baby. Because he has a chronic medical condition that has required him to be on some pretty heavy drugs, I'm pretty sure that getting pregnant is not going to be that easy. In fact, his doctor told us if we don't get pregnant in three months of trying, we should come in for help (so obviously the doctor doesn't even have much faith...don't people usually have to try for a year?) The ONLY thing that has kept me from losing my mind about our prospects is that I know there are options like IVF out there. I'm so glad it worked for you!!

  3. I know, just through blogging, I have found two friends IRL that have IF. I would have NEVER known about it otherwise!
    I try to tell everyone that we had a tough time getting pregnant, now that we are. I think it might change some perceptions, or possibly let someone who is also going through it to have someone to talk to!
    Can't wait to hear the news tomorrow!!

  4. I'm thankful for IVF too. Glad to hear that you are getting the conversations started around you.
    Excited for the big reveal tomorrow.

  5. YAY! can't wait to find out pink or blue!! Totally hear ya on the IVF stuff.

  6. amanda - it's great that your doctor is on this - I know it might sound discouraging but waiting for a year would be a nightmare. We knew after 5 months what the issue was and every failed month seemed like agony. I really hope it works out for you guys in those first three months!

  7. Can't wait to hear what your having!!!! Waiting!!!!!

  8. can't wait too :-) beautiful picture...



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