how do you do it all?

Lately I've been wondering if there is some way to make the days last longer... wondering whether I am fitting enough into each day... am I taking enough pictures of the girls? am I smiling at them enough? am I laughing with them enough? am I playing with them enough?  At seven o'clock at night I generally have a glass of wine in hand and am usually taking my first really relaxing breath of the day.  And yes, I usually do feel like we've had enough fun, had enough giggles (well can you really ever have enough?), played together as much as possible... as much as we can given that there are three of us in the daily equation and two of us like to eat, every two hours (hint hint, I am not included in this twosome)... but part of me always wishes the day was longer so that I would have time to play as much or more, smile more and giggle more, spend more time laughing with Andrew, relaxing with Andrew, while maintaining a clean house, working out more, actually cracking open a cookbook and actually blogging every day.  I know that I can't have it all.  I know what my priorities are.

But it doesn't mean that it's always easy.  Raising twins is tough.  It isn't not doable, it's totally, absolutely doable and actually easier than I'd imagined.  (Which is exactly what I will tell you if you ever ask me) I guess the tough part is the sheer lack of time, downtime that is.

Perhaps I need to schedule myself in somehow... not everyday... but a few times a week.  I do get to the gym and more recently to yoga a few times a week, but I am talking about irresponsible time... time not spent trying to regain my former skinny self... time spent doing frivolous things... time just for me.

If you have children... do you have that time?

how do you do it all?


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  1. Now that I'm back to work I realize I don't have the time either, and I feel guilty if I don't come straight home after work. Yesterday I did some Christmas shopping when I got off and was an hour later getting home. I know it's important to take time for ourselves, but you don't want to miss anything and want more time with the smiles and snuggles like you mentioned.

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  2. PS - I nominated you for an award on my blog!

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  3. I nominated you for an award!

    Also, this is hard, though I will say I think it is easier now that I am back at work. I use the drive in to work and my lunch time as my me time, so the few hours I have with her each night are quality time. But when I was at home, it was much harder to get that time.

    Good luck!

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  4. i have no idea. Some days I'm good and can squeeze in some me time...but others not so much. I just wing it.

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  5. Hi there- I'm a new follower and wanted to say hi! looks like we have a lot of blog friends in common :)

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  6. Wow! Tell me your secret to having so much energy?! I need some of what you have!! It sounds like you're already doing so much, but with twins, you'd probably have to schedule irresponsible time lol!

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  7. I got to take a shower last night while my husband watched our daughter and that was my "me time". It was awesome! I stayed in there for like an hour. When I got out I was telling him something similar to what you are saying. I need me time in order to be a better wife and mom...and next time it's not going to be a shower! I'm thinking margaritas....

    I'm a new follower too!

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  8. I CAN COMPLETELY RELATE!! Its not easy to morph into a mom when your children are born when for so long we had so much time to ourselves to explore and devote time to our hobbies. I ended up staying up later and later at night to indulge in the hobbies that i felt kept me connected to the outside world. I cant believe that my oldest is now four...and with my youngest just 12 weeks, I definitely know how fast that stage is over...even tho it feels so long when youre in it. my two oldest dont even really need me anymore! Blogging became my way of staying connected to the world without having to leave the house!!
    take care!

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  9. I think my down time comes when the little guy goes to bed at 8. I try to be in bed by 11 so I generally get about 2-3 hours, although a lot of that is catching up on chores (like washing bottles, folding laundry, taking a shower...) In the end I probably get an hour. I unwind by watching Netflix.

    I've wanted to work out too but there's just no time! Little guy doesn't nap longer than 30 minutes so I'm trying to squeeze in a quick chore when he does. Maybe when he's older...ha.

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  10. Hi cousin! Well You have me beat. And you will always wonder how that "other mother" does it. All the while she is wondering how YOU do it! It's an epidemic! But I have to say you are a beautiful mother and your girls are lucky (and beautiful too!). I hope Brett and I (and the boys) can come visit in the new year to see your two gorgeous babes before they get too big!

    By the way I FINALLY have a half decent website for my art: www.tamaraizsak.com check it out! Love Tam

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